“Every family has this crazy person in them. If you miss one thing, I seem to have some extras. “Family, for us, is about putting our arms around each other and being there. I don`t think a woman running a house is a problem, a broken family. It is perceived as one, because a head is a man. “It`s hard to let go of the self-esteem that is linked to co-dependence and the appearance of `righteous`, which is probably a survival behavior that we learned from growing up in a crazy family. I feel like you`re really going to disappear. Conflicts between work and family – the trade-offs of your money, life, job or child – would not be imposed on women with such contempt if men experienced the same career failures caused by child responsibility.